As a very long-term (28 years) specialist in therapy for gay men, I’m asked often for gay men’s relationship advice, especially how to overcome some of the most common and classic challenges in gay relationships. Among these are questions about gay relationship situational difficulties that have to do with where and how we live, such as … Read more
[A friend of mine who has experience in bar/club promotion was talking to me at an Oscar party and was waxing philosophical about a variety of issues in the gay community. We are both middle-aged, and he was musing about when “enough is enough” for gay men in participating in the bar/club/party scene. He told … Read more
Many factors affect your quality of life, just day-to-day. But one tip that I have used that helps me, and the clients I counsel and coach, is to keep perspective about your personal life, your work, and your social life in an historical context of the age in history in which we live. Many people … Read more
How many times in a year do I hear that there are people who “hate birthdays”? Far too many. For these people, any recognition of a birthday is somehow a validation of their fears of aging, or a reminder that they are “just getting older.” What can I say about this, as a sophisticated licensed … Read more
Ken gives nine tips for how gay men can thrive at midlife and beyond.