Gay Male Relationships and the ADD/OCD Syndrome

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“Gay Male Relationships and the ADD/OCD Syndrome” In my psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in gay men and gay male couples for what is now (in 2022) thirty years (whew!), I keep noticing a pattern in the gay male couples I serve that one partner seems to generally have a pattern of thinking and behavior … Read more

The Six Principles of Sexual Health as Applied to Gay Men: A Guide

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I’ve been enjoying my recent completion of the Certified Sex Therapist credential from AASECT, the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors, and Therapists.  I achieved this not only from my long experience as a gay men’s specialist therapist (29 years in 2021), but also through completing an 18-month continuing education program for therapists provided by … Read more

Gay Men’s Relationships: How to Deal with Your Ex

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Maybe this title is misleading, because maybe, as a gay man who has left a relationship, you don’t want to “deal” with your ex at all.  And yet lately, in my therapy and coaching practice as a gay men’s specialist and AASECT-Certified sex therapist, I’ve been helping a lot of guys on the topic of coping … Read more

How to Improve a Gay Male Relationship: The Boyfriend “Owner’s Manual”

You’ve bought appliances, electronics, all kinds of gadgets, right? So, how do you know how they work? Maybe you’ve seen someone else use the same thing, but often when we buy something, and it’s even a little complicated (electronic, mechanical, etc.), we consult the Owner’s Manual that comes in the box to learn how to … Read more

The Tools for a Successful Gay Male Relationship: The ‘Three C’s’ of Commitment, Communication, and Compromise

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[This is from 2014, so some of the references are outdated like the evolution of marriage equality laws.  We’ve come a long way!] What an amazing turn of events for marriage equality in a relatively short time this year!  For a terribly long time, gay couples have pleaded, waited, marched, lobbied, and battled for the … Read more

How Do You Know When Your Gay Relationship Is Over?

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Gay men’s therapy expert Ken Howard, LCSW, founder of GayTherapyLA.com, discusses the signs that could mean your gay relationship is over.