Gay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom

Gay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom In my long career (27 years) working with gay male couples as a therapist and relationship coach, I tend to see the same problems gay male couples have in therapy over and over – but, fortunately, there are often similar solutions.  One of the professional … Read more

Topics in Sex Therapy for Gay Men:  Overcoming Fear of Topping

[WARNING: CONTAINS SEX THERAPY CONTENT NOT SUITABLE FOR UNDER 18] In part one of this two-part article on gay men’s fears in sex, I discussed the fear of bottoming.  In this part, we look at gay men who have a fear of topping instead. I’ve been a specialist in therapy and coaching for gay men … Read more

Three’s Company: The Right Way and the Wrong Way to Have a Gay Men’s Three-Way

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A therapist’s office (similar to a physician’s or lawyer’s office) is a place to talk about things that would be difficult to talk about almost anywhere else except behind closed doors at home.  This is why psychotherapy has a long tradition of strict confidentiality:  what’s said in therapy, stays in therapy, with the exception of … Read more

Fear No Leather: BDSM Play for Gay Men Who Are Scared Stiff

Fear No Leather:  Benefits of BDSM Play for Gay Men Who Are Scared Stiff (keywords: gay bdsm, leather, rubber, s/m, b/d, kink) Imagine for a moment that you are overhearing someone talking.  They are saying the following: “Ewwww.  I just don’t get those guys.  That’s just weird.  It’s unnatural.  You’ve got to be sick to … Read more