What is Daily Mental Health for Gay Men? Recently, on a Monday morning, I woke up ready to face the week and preparing to get my head in the game doing my work as a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and life/career/relationship coach. I had my usual morning routine, and a thought came to me about … Read more
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Gay Men and Mismatched Libidos: Navigating Difference
Gay Men and Mismatched Libidos: Navigating Difference Several times recently in my work in sex therapy for gay men, clients have asked me about what to do if they want more, or less, sex than their partner. It’s sometimes referred to as “desire discrepancy” or “mismatched libidos,” and it can happen in gay or straight … Read more
Gay Men and Food: A Dynamic Relationship at Any Age
Gay Men and Food: A Dynamic Relationship at Any Age As of the time of this writing, it’s the holiday season of 2021. And what marks the holiday season more than seasonal foods? Everyone, gay men included, tend to go off their diets and indulge in holiday treats like cookies, candies, baked goods, and winter … Read more
Gay Men and When It’s Time to Break Up a Relationship
Gay Men and When It’s Time to Break Up a Relationship They say, “Love is grand.” And it is, really. In my 29 years (in 2021) as a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist, couples therapist, sex therapist, and life/career/executive coach, I’ve worked with hundreds of gay male couples to help them improve their relationships to try … Read more
Coping with Sudden Crisis: A Personal Story
Coping with Sudden Crisis: A Personal Story Followers of my blog articles and podcast episodes are familiar with my work as a long-term (29 years in 2021) gay men’s specialist psychotherapist, Certified Sex Therapist, and life/career coach. I address many topics about the mental health and well-being of gay men, but I haven’t said that … Read more
Gay Men Who Live Together Too Early
Gay Men Who Live Together Too Early Over my long career (29 years in 2021) of providing couples therapy for gay men in California, as well as relationship coaching to guys all over the United States and other countries of the world, I’ve observed the same topics or challenges (“presenting issues” we therapists say) keep … Read more
Gay Men and The Serenity of Acceptance, Courage, Wisdom
One of the most rewarding parts of my long (28 years!) career as a gay men’s specialist therapist and coach is the variety of guys that I’ve had the pleasure to work with. There is so much variety to their initial issues or challenges that they are presenting to treatment with, and yet often I … Read more
Gay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom
Gay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom In my long career (27 years) working with gay male couples as a therapist and relationship coach, I tend to see the same problems gay male couples have in therapy over and over – but, fortunately, there are often similar solutions. One of the professional … Read more
Enhancing Gay Men’s Mental Health: Lessons from Outfest, the LA LGBT Film Festival
Enhancing Gay Men’s Mental Health: Lessons from Outfest, the LGBT Film Festival It’s been a fantastic couple of weeks enjoying attending regular screenings at Outfest, the annual LGBT film festival in Los Angeles (www.Outfest.org). My husband and I have been enjoying this annual tradition every July for a number of years now, and we describe … Read more
Beyond New Year’s Resolutions: Gay Men Making Real Life Changes
Gay men making real life changes goes beyond making new year’s resolutions. While “resolutions” are a bit a of cliche, where for many of us, the motivated and desired changes you make January 1 fade by the time February comes, making necessary changes is a hard process, even when we realize it’s important to make … Read more