Gay Men’s Sexuality: Three Types of Erectile Dysfunction and Their Interventions

Gay Men’s Sexuality: Three Types of Erectile Dysfunction and Their Interventions [Warning:  This is an adult clinical discussion of sex therapy topics provided by a licensed clinical social worker and trained sex therapist.  It is not restricted adult content, nor is it literary erotica or “pornography,” but reader discretion is advised if you are sensitive … Read more

The New COVID-19 Coping: Balancing “Toxic Positivity” with “Adaptive Coping”

The New COVID-19 Coping: Balancing “Toxic Positivity” with “Adaptive Coping” This week (April 13, 2020), as we enter further into global “stay at home orders”, I’m noticing several mental health providers do some push-back to the more positive messages about coping with the current COVID-19 crisis and working from home.  My last three blog articles … Read more

Mental Health During COVID-19:  Next to Normal

Mental Health During COVID-19: Next to Normal Those who know me well know that I have a life-long obsession with Broadway musicals, recently having completed writing the book, music, and lyrics for a musical of my own, “On the Boulevard,” which takes place in my own very home of West Hollywood, California, a modern re-telling … Read more

Gay Men and the Mental Health Aspects of Working from Home

Gay Men and the Mental Health Aspects of Working from Home If you do a Google search on “tips on working from home,” you find almost too many returns.  It’s overwhelming.  I did a survey of them informally, and tried to find the “best of” those lists.  But what’s missing from them is where I … Read more

Gay Men and Coronavirus/COVID-19:  A Special Kind of Coping

Twelve Tips for a Successful Hospital Stay

[DISCLAIMER:  THIS WAS WRITTEN ON MARCH 10, 2020, AND THE PANDEMIC HAS WORSENED SINCE.  THIS IS SUBJECT TO THE PERSPECTIVE OF THE VERY EARLIEST SIGNS OF TROUBLE IN THE UNITED STATES…] Gay Men and Coronavirus/COVID-19:  A Special Kind of Coping I wanted to provide my regular readers of the GayTherapyLA blog some thoughts as the … Read more

Gay Men and The Serenity of Acceptance, Courage, Wisdom

One of the most rewarding parts of my long (28 years!) career as a gay men’s specialist therapist and coach is the variety of guys that I’ve had the pleasure to work with.  There is so much variety to their initial issues or challenges that they are presenting to treatment with, and yet often I … Read more

Gay Men and Appearance Privilege:  What It Is, What To Do About It

Tips for Gay Men Aging Gracefully: Part II: Socially and Culturally

Gay Men and Appearance Privilege:  What It Is, What To Do About It Imitation and Flattery? Recently, I discovered that a gay men’s specialist therapist in Chicago had posted a string of postings in recent months on Facebook that directly coincided with a string of topics of several of my blog articles and podcast episodes … Read more

Gay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom

How to enjoy gay pride parades.

Gay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom In my long career (27 years) working with gay male couples as a therapist and relationship coach, I tend to see the same problems gay male couples have in therapy over and over – but, fortunately, there are often similar solutions.  One of the professional … Read more

Beyond Crystal Meth Recovery: Meth Prevention for Gay Men

Beyond Crystal Meth Recovery: Meth Prevention for Gay Men Over my long (27 years) career as a gay therapist who is a specialist in therapy for gay men and gay male couples counseling, I’ve worked with many guys who are in recovery from crystal meth abuse and dependence (I don’t use the non-clinical term “addiction”, … Read more

Gay Men and Reaching Goals: Are You Stymied by Approach/Avoidance?

Gay Therapist Tips for "Relationship 2.0": Should I Go Back with My Ex?

Gay Men and Reaching Goals:  Are You Stymied by Approach/Avoidance? So much of what I do as a gay men’s specialist therapist and coach (for the past 27 years) is about helping gay men (and couples) reach their GOALS.  But what does that mean?  I think it’s about the idea that to live our best … Read more