Guest Blog by Brandon Malde-Zoradi, MA, AMFT, APCC, Staff Clinician at GayTherapyLA: “Gay Therapist on Working Through the Pain of Religious Abuse” Religion can be uncomfortable to discuss at times; it should be no surprise why this topic often makes the lists of things that should not be brought up at dinner or a party. … Read moreGuest Blog: Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi on Gay Men Working Through the Pain of Religious Abuse
LGBT as Terminology If you’ve been around mental health and social services as long as I have (over 27 years), you’ve seen some changes. Even if it’s less time than that, you’ve still seen changes, especially in language and what we call things in the vernacular. Take “gay rights”. Just saying that term makes people … Read moreGay Therapist and Educator Discusses: The Problem with “LGBT” Language
As a gay men’s specialist therapist for individuals and for gay men’s relationships for over 27 years, I notice how certain themes come up regularly. Lately, several of my clients have presented the dilemma in their therapy of whether they should go back with an ex, and form a “Version 2.0” new/resumed relationship with them. … Read moreGay Tips for “Relationship 2.0”: Should I Go Back with My Ex?
Gay Men and Toxic Masculinity: A Call for Resistance to Gender Conformity Enforcement As the founder and director of GayTherapyLA, a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in therapy for gay men and counseling for gay male couples (26 years), a theme that I see among clients from time to time includes the gay male client’s … Read moreToxic Masculinity: A Call for Resistance to Gender Conformity Enforcement
Gay Men and Depression: Four Strategies for Help As a specialist in therapy for gay men for over 26 years, by far the most common problem that I see in my office is about depression. I always joke that if the Eskimos supposedly have 23 different words for snow (wet, dry, new, old), we need … Read moreFour Ways to Help Gay Men with Depression
Gay Men and Friendships: How to Cope with the Breakup of a Friendship As a gay male therapist with over 26 years of experience, I’ve seen many clients have to deal with how interpersonal relationships in their lives change over time. Much of the time, I help guys with dating and romantic/domestic relationship issues, but lately some … Read moreA Gay Therapist Gives Tips on How Gay Men Can Cope with the Breakup of a Friendship
Gay Men and Ghosting: Why We Do It, How We Cope In the blogosphere, there have already been some articles on gay men and ghosting, but none of them go into any real depth from a mental health point of view, and in my 26 years as a psychotherapist who specializes in therapy for gay … Read moreGay Therapist on Ghosting: Why Gay Men Do It, How We Cope
GayTherapyLA had the pleasure in April (2018) to hire Matthew Allen, MA, APCC, who is an Associate Professional Clinical Counselor, working as a new Associate Clinician on weekday mornings and weekends at the GayTherapyLA offices on San Vicente near Sixth in LA/Beverly Hills. I caught up with Matthew to ask him about himself, and the … Read moreGayTherapyLA Associate Clinicians: Interview with Matthew Allen, MA, APCC
Hard Times: Gay Men and Erectile Dysfunction – Causes and Cures Background: Erectile Dysfunction in Gay Men I’ve been a therapist who specializes in therapy for gay men for over 26 years, and one of the most frequent topics discussed in my office is about sexual anxieties, in particular erectile dysfunction (ED), sometimes in the … Read moreGay Therapist on Gay Men and Erectile Dysfunction: Cognitive Causes and Cures
Recently in my psychotherapy and coaching practice that has focused on gay men and gay male couples for over 26 years, a client started a session by talking about his previous week. “How was this week?” I asked. “Oh, boy. Lots going on. Been busy. Very busy. Toxic busy!” That phrase struck me. “Toxic busy”. … Read moreGay Therapist Discusses “Toxic Busy”: How Much Is Too Much for Gay Men?