The leading specialist gay therapist in Los Angeles.

Trust your therapy to a true expert gay counselor and master therapist who can help you.

What are you trying to achieve in your life?  What do you need or want some help to accomplish?

People don't hire me to just provide counseling, psychotherapy, or coaching services.  They hire me to help them make important, lasting changes for the better in their lives, such as in their relationships, careers, health, or overall well-being.

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I am Ken Howard, LCSW, a gay therapist and sex therapist tin Los Angeles (also serving West Hollywood and Beverly Hills, and other LA areas, and more places via phone/webcam) with more experience doing therapy as a specialist in gay men than anyone else currently in the United States, with over 29 years experience.  I am an expert, licensed psychotherapist, AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist, and life/career coach specializing in therapy for gay men and gay male couples, who can help you solve a variety of problems, now.

An LGBT-affirmative therapist, and more specifically, a gay men's specialist therapist, is equipped to help you in ways that are deeper, more nuanced, and ultimately more effective than even the most well-meaning straight therapist can.  There are cultural issues, socio-political dynamics, historical context, men's psychology considerations, terminology, academic knowledge, clinical insights, and other details of "cultural competency" to work specifically with gay men that I offer, that only decades of clinical experience, writing, research, and personal perspective living with and among the LGBT community can provide.

I’m not the cheapest therapist in town, but therapy is not an area where you want to skimp (would you want a “discount” brain surgeon?) when we are talking about high stakes in your life.  You make getting the help you need, and achieving the goals you want, your priority.  Your mind, emotions, behaviors, and choices when you are coping with serious life challenges and making important life decisions need to be with someone you trust in their professional background, beyond a newcomer.

I specialize in complex cases that would not be right for a younger, inexperienced gay male therapist.  I am comfortable working with topics other psychotherapists (including other gay male ones) can’t, or don’t feel comfortable with (such as sensitive sexual issues like erectile dysfunction or other sex therapy issues).  I have credentials beyond state licensure that enhance my ability to serve you effectively and efficiently, such as being an AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist, adjunct Associate Professor at USC (teaching courses in LGBT issues, evidence-based psychotherapy models, and couples therapy), a published author, and speaker/educator on LGBT+ Affirmative Therapy, HIV/AIDS (I’m 31 years poz), Diversity, Couples Therapy, and Sex Therapy.

I'm also trained specifically as a psychiatric social worker, helping clients who live with disorders such as Major Depression, Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Panic Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, Attention Deficit Disorder/ADHD, Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD), Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), phobias, personality disorders, psychotic disorders, substance abuse disorders, and chronic health conditions (HIV/AIDS, cancer, lupus, MS, and physical disabilities).  I started my career as an HIV mental health expert, and served as Chair of the Los Angeles County HIV Mental Health Task Force for 9 years. 

Prior to private practice, I worked in various LA County area non-profit organizations focusing on HIV and the homeless, and a brief corporate career in the entertainment and computer software industries in business research.  I work with many individuals in the LA entertainment industry, especially actors and writers, on advancing your career both creatively and commercially.  I enjoy creative writing and amateur bodybuilding in my spare time, and coaching others in these areas. 

As a specialist in working with gay men, I have worked with many guys who have a problematic relationship to alcohol, cocaine, opiates, and especially crystal meth.  As a Certified Sex Therapist, I offer alternative treatment from the problematic "sex addiction" or "porn addiction" models, and work from a non-judgmental, sex-positive, LGBT-affirmative, evidence-based perspective to treat "out of control sexual behavior" to clarify your personal values and make your goals and your reality match. 

Other areas of frequent clinical focus include helping sexual abuse survivors reclaim their right to a satisfying and rewarding adult sexual life, and helping survivors of other kinds of trauma (violent crime, accidents, natural disasters, emotional abuse, exploitation, domestic violence, loss of a loved one, etc.) to recover and thrive.  As a middle-aged gay man, I work with many of my peers on gay men's midlife issues and healthy aging, as well as supporting and mentoring younger gay men on achieving their personal and professional potential. 

Work with couples often involves improving communication, deepening trust and intimacy, recovering after an affair or infidelity, increasing frequency or quality of your sex life with each other, or navigating a Consensual Non-Monogamy arrangement, all in a specifically gay male cultural context.  I also help those with polyamorous relationships, and am a member of the Kink-Aware Professionals Network and the Secular Therapists Association. 

Sessions are 50 minutes, and are available in my office in Los Angeles, or via phone or webcam, all over the United States, or the world.  I do not bill insurance plans directly, but I can provide California residents with completed receipts/claim forms if you have a PPO plan with “out of network provider” benefits.  I offer a limited sliding scale fee rate for those who qualify in annual income.  I think you will find that the investment you make in therapy or coaching pays off in meaningful results to improve your quality of life, and to solve the problems that currently cause you pain.

Feel free to message me with any questions about my services.  Email me at, or call/text my cell anytime at 310-339-5778 for more information, a free 15-minute phone consultation, or to make a session appointment.

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Ken is a consummate professional, combining the best in common sense, practical business coaching, and a solid grounding in evidence-based psychotherapy. There are few of his ilk. I have become a better and more secure manager of my own life with his help. I recommend him to friends, particularly gay professionals who seek improved personal and interpersonal skills and business acumen. Ken wears both hats with considerable skill and warmth.

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