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Most couples reach out at a point like this:
You care about each other. There may still be love, history, or commitment.
But something between you isn’t working the way it used to—and hasn’t for a while.
You may feel disconnected, irritated, or stuck in the same conversations that never fully resolve.
One of you may be pulling away while the other tries harder. Or both of you may feel exhausted, unsure how to get back to what once felt easier.
Sometimes it’s about communication. Sometimes it’s sex, trust, or outside stress.
Sometimes it’s harder to define—just a growing sense that the relationship isn’t functioning the way it could.
Nothing may be “broken.”
But something isn’t working.
And it’s starting to affect how you feel about each other—and about the future of the relationship.
Most couples I work with reach out when they realize they’ve been trying to solve this on their own for too long—and need a clearer way forward.
If you’ve been thinking about getting help, this is often the point where waiting begins to make things harder, not easier.
Gay couples therapy provides a structured, confidential setting to address what is actually happening between you—emotionally, psychologically, and relationally. As a gay couples therapist in Los Angeles, I provide secure telehealth to gay male couples and polyamorous relationships throughout California.
In our work together, couples often focus on:
While this is psychotherapy, the work is active and goal-oriented, with attention to real-world behavior change—not just insight.
Over the course of my career, I have helped hundreds of gay male couples and polyamorous relationships strengthen communication, rebuild connection, and feel more secure together. In some cases, couples ultimately decide to part ways—but even then, the goal is clarity, respect, and reduced emotional harm.
Gay male relationships involve distinct psychological, cultural, and relational dynamics that differ meaningfully from heterosexual couples.
Two men bring two sets of male psychology, social conditioning, sexual scripts, and cultural expectations into the relationship. Add in coming-out histories, minority stress, internalized shame, power dynamics, age differences, HIV status, sexual agreements, or differing views of masculinity—and the complexity increases.
I have spent over three decades working exclusively with gay men—individually, in couples, and in polyamorous relationships. This specialization means you do not have to educate your therapist about gay male culture, sexuality, or relationship dynamics. We can focus directly on the work that matters.
I also work extensively with consensual non-monogamy and polyamory, including negotiating agreements, navigating jealousy, repairing trust after boundary breaches, and helping partners assess whether open structures truly serve their relationship.
As an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, sexual concerns are addressed directly and without judgment—including mismatched desire, performance anxiety, shame, kink, evolving sexual identities, or redefining intimacy as bodies and lives change. I am kink-aware and affirm diverse forms of consensual sexual expression.
Couples therapy may involve working with mood, anxiety, trauma, or attention-related concerns when these issues affect the relationship. Therapy does not require that one partner be labeled as “the problem.”
The focus is on patterns between you, not assigning blame.
The work is often skills-based—helping couples develop more effective communication, emotional regulation, conflict repair, and sexual confidence—while also understanding how earlier experiences continue to shape present interactions.
I have been in clinical practice since the early 1990s, specializing in gay men’s mental health, relationships, and sexuality.
I am a retired adjunct professor at the USC Suzanne Dworak-Peck School of Social Work, where I taught graduate-level courses in Couples Therapy, Evidence-Based Psychotherapy Models, and LGBT clinical practice. This academic background informs my work while remaining grounded, practical, and clinically focused.
I am also openly HIV-positive and have lived successfully with HIV since 1990. I previously served as Chair of the Los Angeles County HIV Mental Health Task Force. While HIV is a medical condition, it also carries emotional, relational, and sexual implications that can affect couples in complex ways.
On a personal level, I have been in a long-term relationship with my husband for over 23 years, which gives me lived perspective on how gay relationships evolve across different stages of life. We live in West Hollywood. I was also single for many years as an adult in the Los Angeles gay community. I live and work in the same community I serve, and many clients value the depth of cultural understanding this brings, alongside strict professional boundaries and confidentiality.
If your relationship feels strained, stuck, or uncertain, you do not have to figure it out alone.
I offer a no-charge, 15-minute phone consultation to help determine whether couples therapy is the right next step for you.
See how I can help. Call/Text (310) 339-5778 to schedule a no-charge, 15-minute phone consultation, or click on button below to complete contact form.