Gay Men and Appearance Privilege:  What It Is, What To Do About It

Tips for Gay Men Aging Gracefully: Part II: Socially and Culturally

Gay Men and Appearance Privilege:  What It Is, What To Do About It Imitation and Flattery? Recently, I discovered that a gay men’s specialist therapist in Chicago had posted a string of postings in recent months on Facebook that directly coincided with a string of topics of several of my blog articles and podcast episodes … Read moreGay Men and Appearance Privilege:  What It Is, What To Do About It

Gay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom

How to enjoy gay pride parades.

Gay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom In my long career (27 years) working with gay male couples as a therapist and relationship coach, I tend to see the same problems gay male couples have in therapy over and over – but, fortunately, there are often similar solutions.  One of the professional … Read moreGay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom

Beyond Crystal Meth Recovery: Meth Prevention for Gay Men

Beyond Crystal Meth Recovery: Meth Prevention for Gay Men Over my long (27 years) career as a gay therapist who is a specialist in therapy for gay men and gay male couples counseling, I’ve worked with many guys who are in recovery from crystal meth abuse and dependence (I don’t use the non-clinical term “addiction”, … Read moreBeyond Crystal Meth Recovery: Meth Prevention for Gay Men

Gay Men and Reaching Goals: Are You Stymied by Approach/Avoidance?

Gay Therapist Tips for "Relationship 2.0": Should I Go Back with My Ex?

Gay Men and Reaching Goals:  Are You Stymied by Approach/Avoidance? So much of what I do as a gay men’s specialist therapist and coach (for the past 27 years) is about helping gay men (and couples) reach their GOALS.  But what does that mean?  I think it’s about the idea that to live our best … Read moreGay Men and Reaching Goals: Are You Stymied by Approach/Avoidance?

Gay Couples Therapy Challenges:  “My Partner Isn’t Contributing Equally!”

Gay Couples Therapy Challenges:  “My Partner Isn’t Contributing Equally!”

One of the most common themes I hear in my psychotherapy practice in Los Angeles (specializing in therapy and coaching for gay men, and gay male couples, for over 27 years) is in relationships (Gay Relationship Inequality) where one partner has a complaint that he feels his partner is not “making an equal contribution to … Read moreGay Couples Therapy Challenges:  “My Partner Isn’t Contributing Equally!”

Topics in Sex Therapy for Gay Men:  Overcoming Fear of Topping

[WARNING: CONTAINS SEX THERAPY CONTENT NOT SUITABLE FOR UNDER 18] In part one of this two-part article on gay men’s fears in sex, I discussed the fear of bottoming.  In this part, we look at gay men who have a fear of topping instead. I’ve been a specialist in therapy and coaching for gay men … Read moreTopics in Sex Therapy for Gay Men:  Overcoming Fear of Topping

Topics in Sex Therapy for Gay Men:  Overcoming Fear of Bottoming

[WARNING: CONTAINS SEX THERAPY CONTENT NOT SUITABLE FOR UNDER 18] I’ve been a specialist in therapy and coaching for gay men for over 27 years, as individuals and couples.  I work with guys on lots of issues and disorders, such as depression, bipolar disorder, OCD, ADD, substance abuse recovery, dating skills, career planning, and couples … Read moreTopics in Sex Therapy for Gay Men:  Overcoming Fear of Bottoming

Guest Blog: Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi on Bullying and the LGBTQ+ Community

Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi

Bullying and the LGBTQ+ Community (by Brandon Malde-Zoradi, MA, AMFT, APCC) I’ve always had a love for movies and shows that take place in high school. Mean Girls, Clueless, 10 Things I Hate About You, Heathers, Buffy The Vampire Slayer, and many other titles come to mind when I think of my favorite drama-filled, hormone-driven … Read moreGuest Blog: Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi on Bullying and the LGBTQ+ Community

Guest Blog:  Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi on Gay Men Working Through the Pain of Religious Abuse

Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi

Guest Blog by Brandon Malde-Zoradi, MA, AMFT, APCC, Staff Clinician at GayTherapyLA:  “Gay Therapist on Working Through the Pain of Religious Abuse” Religion can be uncomfortable to discuss at times; it should be no surprise why this topic often makes the lists of things that should not be brought up at dinner or a party. … Read moreGuest Blog:  Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi on Gay Men Working Through the Pain of Religious Abuse

Gay Therapist and Educator Discusses: The Problem with “LGBT” Language

The Problem with LGBT Language

LGBT as Terminology If you’ve been around mental health and social services as long as I have (over 27 years), you’ve seen some changes. Even if it’s less time than that, you’ve still seen changes, especially in language and what we call things in the vernacular. Take “gay rights”.  Just saying that term makes people … Read moreGay Therapist and Educator Discusses: The Problem with “LGBT” Language