Gay Men and Reaching Goals: Are You Stymied by Approach/Avoidance? So much of what I do as a gay men’s specialist therapist and coach (for the past 27 years) is about helping gay men (and couples) reach their GOALS. But what does that mean? I think it’s about the idea that to live our best … Read moreGay Men and Reaching Goals: Are You Stymied by Approach/Avoidance?
One of the most common themes I hear in my psychotherapy practice in Los Angeles (specializing in therapy and coaching for gay men, and gay male couples, for over 27 years) is in relationships (Gay Relationship Inequality) where one partner has a complaint that he feels his partner is not “making an equal contribution to … Read moreGay Couples Therapy Challenges: “My Partner Isn’t Contributing Equally!”
[WARNING: CONTAINS SEX THERAPY CONTENT NOT SUITABLE FOR UNDER 18] In part one of this two-part article on gay men’s fears in sex, I discussed the fear of bottoming. In this part, we look at gay men who have a fear of topping instead. I’ve been a specialist in therapy and coaching for gay men … Read moreTopics in Sex Therapy for Gay Men: Overcoming Fear of Topping
[WARNING: CONTAINS SEX THERAPY CONTENT NOT SUITABLE FOR UNDER 18] I’ve been a specialist in therapy and coaching for gay men for over 27 years, as individuals and couples. I work with guys on lots of issues and disorders, such as depression, bipolar disorder, OCD, ADD, substance abuse recovery, dating skills, career planning, and couples … Read moreTopics in Sex Therapy for Gay Men: Overcoming Fear of Bottoming
Bullying and the LGBTQ+ Community (by Brandon Malde-Zoradi, MA, AMFT, APCC) I’ve always had a love for movies and shows that take place in high school. Mean Girls, Clueless, 10 Things I Hate About You, Heathers, Buffy The Vampire Slayer, and many other titles come to mind when I think of my favorite drama-filled, hormone-driven … Read moreGuest Blog: Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi on Bullying and the LGBTQ+ Community
Guest Blog by Brandon Malde-Zoradi, MA, AMFT, APCC, Staff Clinician at GayTherapyLA: “Gay Therapist on Working Through the Pain of Religious Abuse” Religion can be uncomfortable to discuss at times; it should be no surprise why this topic often makes the lists of things that should not be brought up at dinner or a party. … Read moreGuest Blog: Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi on Gay Men Working Through the Pain of Religious Abuse
LGBT as Terminology If you’ve been around mental health and social services as long as I have (over 27 years), you’ve seen some changes. Even if it’s less time than that, you’ve still seen changes, especially in language and what we call things in the vernacular. Take “gay rights”. Just saying that term makes people … Read moreGay Therapist and Educator Discusses: The Problem with “LGBT” Language
As a gay men’s specialist therapist for individuals and for gay men’s relationships for over 27 years, I notice how certain themes come up regularly. Lately, several of my clients have presented the dilemma in their therapy of whether they should go back with an ex, and form a “Version 2.0” new/resumed relationship with them. … Read moreGay Tips for “Relationship 2.0”: Should I Go Back with My Ex?
Gay Men and Toxic Masculinity: A Call for Resistance to Gender Conformity Enforcement As the founder and director of GayTherapyLA, a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in therapy for gay men and counseling for gay male couples (26 years), a theme that I see among clients from time to time includes the gay male client’s … Read moreToxic Masculinity: A Call for Resistance to Gender Conformity Enforcement
Gay Men and Depression: Four Strategies for Help As a specialist in therapy for gay men for over 26 years, by far the most common problem that I see in my office is about depression. I always joke that if the Eskimos supposedly have 23 different words for snow (wet, dry, new, old), we need … Read moreFour Ways to Help Gay Men with Depression