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Gay Men and Dating Challenges: How to Cope with Them

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Gay Men and Dating Challenges: How to Cope with Them In my work providing psychotherapy and coaching to gay men (for 31 years in 2023), it is probably a daily occurrence that I’m working with a client who is a single gay man, who is navigating being single, and managing the modern dating scene.  It’s … Read more

Lessons for Gay Men from the “On the Boulevard” Musical

Lessons for Gay Men from the “On the Boulevard” Musical Today, I’d like to share a different kind of perspective, where instead of speaking from my role as a long-term (31 years in 2023) specialist psychotherapist, sex therapist, and life/career/relationship coach for gay men and gay male relationships, worldwide, I’d like to a share a … Read more

Gay Men: Superheroes as Role Models

Gay Men: Superheroes as Role Models As a gay men’s specialist licensed psychotherapist and life/career/relationship coach, I reflect on the many influences that inform my values, opinions, interests, skills, perspectives, challenges, and rewards, and how I bring those to my work with clients in my psychotherapy and coaching services practice. Today, I’d like to share … Read more

Gay Men and Mixing Your Boyfriend with Your Friends

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As a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist for over 30 years, life/career/relationship/executive coach, and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, I hear about a lot of situations gay men face in the course of a week of client sessions in my full-time psychotherapy and coaching practice with gay men mostly in California but also all over the U.S. … Read more

Gay Men and Life Lessons We Can Learn from Actors

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Gay Men and Life Lessons We Can Learn from Actors As a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and coach in Los Angeles, or, more specifically, West Hollywood, the influence of the television and film entertainment industry is everywhere. Not all, but a good percentage of my clients are somehow affiliated with it. It permeates the air … Read more

Gay Men and Coping with Specific Traumas – PART ONE

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Gay Men and Coping with Specific Traumas – PART ONE Throughout my career as a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist (for 30 years in 2022), I’ve helped a lot of gay men who have been the victims – and survivors – of various kinds of trauma.  I use the terms both “victim” and “survivor” to validate … Read more

Gay Men and Pets: Challenges & Rewards

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Gay Men and Pets: Challenges & Rewards In an earlier article, I wrote about gay men seeking to satisfy their natural paternal instincts, even if they do not have children (that article is here).  I wrote how gay men sometimes see their pets as their “children,” doting on them probably more than straight people do, … Read more

Gay Men and Trauma Recovery: Reclaiming Your Life

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Gay Men and Trauma Recovery: Reclaiming Your Life   What is Trauma? After being a gay men’s specialist therapist for 30 years now (in 2022), I am often humbled by the wonderful opportunity I have to be of service to gay men from so many different backgrounds, of ages, races, ethnicities, even nationalities, and in … Read more

Gay Men and Mismatched Libidos: Navigating Difference

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Gay Men and Mismatched Libidos: Navigating Difference Several times recently in my work in sex therapy for gay men, clients have asked me about what to do if they want more, or less, sex than their partner.  It’s sometimes referred to as “desire discrepancy” or “mismatched libidos,” and it can happen in gay or straight … Read more

Mental Health Aspects of Sexual Health for Gay Men

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Mental Health Aspects of Sexual Health for Gay Men As a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and coach for now 30 years (in 2022), and as a Certified Psychiatric Social Worker, and now AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, perhaps it follows that I might be interested in sharing some thoughts about the intersection of psychiatric disorders, physical … Read more