Gay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom

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Gay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom In my long career (27 years) working with gay male couples as a therapist and relationship coach, I tend to see the same problems gay male couples have in therapy over and over – but, fortunately, there are often similar solutions.  One of the professional … Read moreGay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom

Gay Men and Reaching Goals: Are You Stymied by Approach/Avoidance?

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Gay Men and Reaching Goals:  Are You Stymied by Approach/Avoidance? So much of what I do as a gay men’s specialist therapist and coach (for the past 27 years) is about helping gay men (and couples) reach their GOALS.  But what does that mean?  I think it’s about the idea that to live our best … Read moreGay Men and Reaching Goals: Are You Stymied by Approach/Avoidance?

Gay Couples Therapy Challenges:  “My Partner Isn’t Contributing Equally!”

Gay Couples Therapy Challenges:  “My Partner Isn’t Contributing Equally!”

One of the most common themes I hear in my psychotherapy practice in Los Angeles (specializing in therapy and coaching for gay men, and gay male couples, for over 27 years) is in relationships (Gay Relationship Inequality) where one partner has a complaint that he feels his partner is not “making an equal contribution to … Read moreGay Couples Therapy Challenges:  “My Partner Isn’t Contributing Equally!”

A Gay Therapist Gives Tips on How Gay Men Can Cope with the Breakup of a Friendship

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Gay Men and Friendships:  How to Cope with the Breakup of a Friendship As a gay male therapist with over 26 years of experience, I’ve seen many clients have to deal with how interpersonal relationships in their lives change over time.  Much of the time, I help guys with dating and romantic/domestic relationship issues, but lately some … Read moreA Gay Therapist Gives Tips on How Gay Men Can Cope with the Breakup of a Friendship

Gay Therapist on Ghosting: Why Gay Men Do It, How We Cope

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Gay Men and Ghosting:  Why We Do It, How We Cope In the blogosphere, there have already been some articles on gay men and ghosting, but none of them go into any real depth from a mental health point of view, and in my 26 years as a psychotherapist who specializes in therapy for gay … Read moreGay Therapist on Ghosting: Why Gay Men Do It, How We Cope

Enhancing Gay Men’s Mental Health: Lessons from Outfest, the LA LGBT Film Festival

Enhancing Gay Men’s Mental Health:  Lessons from Outfest, the LGBT Film Festival It’s been a fantastic couple of weeks enjoying attending regular screenings at Outfest, the annual LGBT film festival in Los Angeles (www.Outfest.org).  My husband and I have been enjoying this annual tradition every July for a number of years now, and we describe … Read moreEnhancing Gay Men’s Mental Health: Lessons from Outfest, the LA LGBT Film Festival

How Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 2: Techniques

How Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 2: Techniques In Part 1 of this article, I shared some of the traits of resilient people that have been described by Susan Dunn, in her “Top 10 Attributes of Resilient People”, among others.  Resilience is the ability to adapt and grow from adversity, … Read moreHow Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 2: Techniques

Ten Tips to Reduce Your Election Stress This Weekend: A Guide for Gay Men

There’s a saying that says, “don’t be part of the problem, be part of the solution.” So many of my friends on Facebook, my clients, and just people I talk to, have reported that they have had such a hard week and hard time for a number of weeks now, because they are stressed about … Read moreTen Tips to Reduce Your Election Stress This Weekend: A Guide for Gay Men

Gay Therapist Gives Tips on Gay Men Aging Gracefully: Part III: Domestically and Financially

In this third and last of my three-part series on how therapy can help gay men age gracefully, I’d like to share how therapy can help you be at your best domestically and financially.  (In Part I, we covered emotionally and physically, and in Part II , we covered socially and culturally). As a specialist … Read moreGay Therapist Gives Tips on Gay Men Aging Gracefully: Part III: Domestically and Financially

A Gay Therapist Interviews Aaron B. Duke, Interior Designer, on Gay Men’s Entrepreneurial Success

Today’s article is an interview with Aaron B. Duke, one of the most prominent interior designers in Los Angeles, whose work has created some of the most beautiful homes in Southern California and elsewhere.  In addition, he is an out-and-proud gay male entrepreneur, with plenty of advice for young gay men (or others) who want … Read moreA Gay Therapist Interviews Aaron B. Duke, Interior Designer, on Gay Men’s Entrepreneurial Success