Gay Men’s Relationship Advice: How to Succeed in an Age-Difference Relationship

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As a very long-term (28 years) specialist in therapy for gay men, I’m asked often for gay men’s relationship advice, especially how to overcome some of the most common and classic challenges in gay relationships.  Among these are questions about gay relationship situational difficulties that have to do with where and how we live, such as … Read more

A Gay Therapist Discusses Gay Men and Tattoos: Ritual and Meaning


In my private practice as a psychotherapist who specializes in working with gay men, it was a surprise to me when several years into my practice I noticed a pattern that gay men like to talk about how the tattoos they have hold special, even profound meaning for them. When I first opened my private … Read more

Life Lessons I Have Learned from Gay Icon Divas (Judy, Liza, Elizabeth, Marilyn, Dolly, Cher, Tina, Diana, Stevie)

One of the fun things about gay male culture is that "we all" seem to have this fascination with certain women in entertainment.  That's a stereotype, of course, but it has some reasonable roots in reality.  I fall into a lot of those "classic gay" things; I like musicals, clothes, the gym, shopping, etc.  And … Read more

Valentine’s Day for Single Gay Men: Coping with Hope

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Valentine’s Day, for all its lovely sentiment, is perhaps one of the most divisive holidays of the year.  Everyone can enjoy New Year’s; every American can enjoy President’s Day (thankfully coming up very soon) and Independence Day; we each have a birthday.  But Valentine’s Day is a “holiday for lovers”, and many single people can end … Read more

CoachTeam Group Coaching Services

CoachTeam is a new, patent-pending Group Life Coaching program offered in small groups in my office.  It’s different from traditional group psychotherapy (though it uses some of these concepts, as I am a licensed psychotherapist) in that there is a focus on short-term and long-term ATTAINABLE goals.  Based on the concepts of mutual support, mutual challenge, team-building, … Read more

Election Blues from Panicking Pollster

Dear Shrink,

I’m a 22-year-old gay male and I’m a little too deep into election news. I can’t get enough of the news, information online, and newspaper and magazine articles. I follow the polls like a stalker, hoping that my favored candidate is ahead. If we get another anti-gay President, I’m going to scream. How do I deal with my election obsession?

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