Gay Couples Therapy/Gay Relationship Counseling
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- Maybe you are worried because you aren’t as happy in your relationship as you would like to be.
- Maybe you are bored, scared, unsure, worried, or annoyed.
- Maybe you are worried because you aren’t as happy in your relationship as you would like to be.
- Maybe you’re confused on whether “you” are the problem, or “he” is. Or maybe the problem is, you don’t know where or even what the problem is.
- You could be worried about money and making a home domestically with the chores and stress of everyday life.
- You could be frustratMaybe you love your partner, but you’re not that sexually satisfied with him.ed that your sex life is not what you know you really want it to be.
- You could be frustrated that your sex life is not what you know you really want it to be.
- Maybe there is a “third” involved — perhaps a person, but also perhaps an addiction, like alcohol or another substance, or problems with gambling, sex outside the relationship agreement, problems with spending money, anger, or not taking care of himself in other ways.
- Or maybe your partner just has some really bad habits.
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Maybe it’s not that dramatic, but you know that you and your partner could be happier, “if only” you two were functioning better in one or more areas of your life together — communication, money, “balance”, sex, chores, trust, jealousy, time, the in-laws, the pets, the friends, the house.
How does investing in couples counseling help with this?
Here's How
While I specialize in my training, research, and experience helping gay male couples, I’ve also helped lesbian and straight couples achieve a more satisfying relationship by learning how to communicate better with each other, reducing the number or intensity of fights, having more or better sex, negotiating the details of spicing up a monogamous relationship or designing how it might work to have a satisfying and yet still “safe” open relationship, or dealing with other types of stress that impact a relationship.
Over all my years in practice, I’ve helped hundreds of couples stay together, work things out, and be happier. Occasionally, I’ve had to help them break up amicably, but even then, the partners are still happier. It all depends on the circumstances of the work that we do.
I was born and raised in the area of Washington, DC, and I have lived in Los Angeles since 1983. Since 1992, I have developed myself as a clinician, author, speaker, professor, sex therapist, and coach, as an expert in gay men’s mental health and well-being. I specialize in working with gay men, but I will also see lesbians, bisexuals, transgender people, intersex, or questioning people as well. I have a focus and a passion for helping gay men live their best quality of life as a clinician, coach, author, expert witness, consultant, researcher, advocate, and activist.
I have been successfully living with HIV since 1990, and am an HIV mental health expert and former Chair of the Los Angeles County HIV Mental Health Task Force. While HIV is considered a medical issue, there are many emotional and psychosocial aspects to living successfully with HIV as well.
Personally speaking, I am legally married to a wonderful husband. We were one of the first 18,000 same-sex couples to marry in California after it became legal in May, 2008, before Proposition 8. We live in West Hollywood. But I was also an adult and single for many years in the LA gay community, so I have the perspective that can help single gay men thrive, personally and professionally. I live and work in an active, visible, social, and civic role in the gay male community of Los Angeles and West Hollywood to “walk the walk” and “talk the talk” of my practice, empowering gay men to lead fuller lives — psychologically, professionally, emotionally, physically, sexually, politically, socially, and spiritually. I’m not afraid to be “out” and visible in my own community, with the vibrant diversity of gay life in West Hollywood. While I always observe appropriate professional boundaries and strict confidentiality, I live in the same community that I serve professionally. Many of my clients appreciate this aspect of our work, as it can make you feel heard and understood in more depth and cultural understanding than even the most “well-meaning” straight therapist, or even another gay therapist who isn’t a long-term specialist in working with our community.
Get the help you need and deserve.
See how I can help. Call/Text (310) 339-5778 to schedule a no-charge, 15-minute phone consultation, or click on button below to complete contact form.
