Gay Therapist Discusses “Toxic Busy”: How Much Is Too Much for Gay Men?

"Toxic Busy": How Much Is Too Much for Gay Men?

Recently in my psychotherapy and coaching practice that has focused on gay men and gay male couples for over 26 years, a client started a session by talking about his previous week.  “How was this week?” I asked. “Oh, boy.  Lots going on.  Been busy.  Very busy.  Toxic busy!” That phrase struck me. “Toxic busy”.  … Read more

Gay Therapist Gives Tips on Gay Men Aging Gracefully: Part III: Domestically and Financially

Tips on Gay Men Aging Gracefully: Part III: Domestically and Financially

In this third and last of my three-part series on how therapy can help gay men age gracefully, I’d like to share how therapy can help you be at your best domestically and financially.  (In Part I, we covered emotionally and physically, link here; and in Part II , we covered socially and culturally, link … Read more

A Career Coach’s 9 Tips for How to Make More Money

One of the biggest questions that guys have about their careers is how to make more money.  Women wonder this, too, but my psychotherapy and coaching practice focuses on men (gay and straight) and I know more about those dynamics.  Even though there is certainly a social injustice about men, in general, getting paid more … Read more

7 Ways to Take Care of Your Financial Self – Now and for the Future

coins-photoPart of my initial assessment as a psychotherapist for gay men examines their current financial security, goals, fears, risks, and rewards. Our finances contribute to how we perceive our external environment, and they affect mood, feelings, behavior, and relationships. Since starting in practice as a gay men’s specialist therapist in 1992, I have observed certain “true-isms” about guys who have it together financially – regardless of their income bracket. What is the connection between good financial habits and coping with depression and anxiety? Here are some time-honored tips:

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