Gay Men and Appearance Privilege:  What It Is, What To Do About It

Tips for Gay Men Aging Gracefully: Part II: Socially and Culturally

Gay Men and Appearance Privilege:  What It Is, What To Do About It Imitation and Flattery? Recently, I discovered that a gay men’s specialist therapist in Chicago had posted a string of postings in recent months on Facebook that directly coincided with a string of topics of several of my blog articles and podcast episodes … Read moreGay Men and Appearance Privilege:  What It Is, What To Do About It

Gay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom

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Gay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom In my long career (27 years) working with gay male couples as a therapist and relationship coach, I tend to see the same problems gay male couples have in therapy over and over – but, fortunately, there are often similar solutions.  One of the professional … Read moreGay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom

Beyond Crystal Meth Recovery: Meth Prevention for Gay Men

Beyond Crystal Meth Recovery: Meth Prevention for Gay Men Over my long (27 years) career as a gay therapist who is a specialist in therapy for gay men and gay male couples counseling, I’ve worked with many guys who are in recovery from crystal meth abuse and dependence (I don’t use the non-clinical term “addiction”, … Read moreBeyond Crystal Meth Recovery: Meth Prevention for Gay Men

Gay Men and Reaching Goals: Are You Stymied by Approach/Avoidance?

Gay Therapist Tips for "Relationship 2.0": Should I Go Back with My Ex?

Gay Men and Reaching Goals:  Are You Stymied by Approach/Avoidance? So much of what I do as a gay men’s specialist therapist and coach (for the past 27 years) is about helping gay men (and couples) reach their GOALS.  But what does that mean?  I think it’s about the idea that to live our best … Read moreGay Men and Reaching Goals: Are You Stymied by Approach/Avoidance?

Guest Blog: Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi on Bullying and the LGBTQ+ Community

Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi

Bullying and the LGBTQ+ Community (by Brandon Malde-Zoradi, MA, AMFT, APCC) I’ve always had a love for movies and shows that take place in high school. Mean Girls, Clueless, 10 Things I Hate About You, Heathers, Buffy The Vampire Slayer, and many other titles come to mind when I think of my favorite drama-filled, hormone-driven … Read moreGuest Blog: Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi on Bullying and the LGBTQ+ Community

Guest Blog:  Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi on Gay Men Working Through the Pain of Religious Abuse

Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi

Guest Blog by Brandon Malde-Zoradi, MA, AMFT, APCC, Staff Clinician at GayTherapyLA:  “Gay Therapist on Working Through the Pain of Religious Abuse” Religion can be uncomfortable to discuss at times; it should be no surprise why this topic often makes the lists of things that should not be brought up at dinner or a party. … Read moreGuest Blog:  Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi on Gay Men Working Through the Pain of Religious Abuse

Gay Therapist and Educator Discusses: The Problem with “LGBT” Language

The Problem with LGBT Language

LGBT as Terminology If you’ve been around mental health and social services as long as I have (over 27 years), you’ve seen some changes. Even if it’s less time than that, you’ve still seen changes, especially in language and what we call things in the vernacular. Take “gay rights”.  Just saying that term makes people … Read moreGay Therapist and Educator Discusses: The Problem with “LGBT” Language

Four Ways to Help Gay Men with Depression

young man at balcony in depression suffering emotional crisis

Gay Men and Depression: Four Strategies for Help As a specialist in therapy for gay men for over 26 years, by far the most common problem that I see in my office is about depression.  I always joke that if the Eskimos supposedly have 23 different words for snow (wet, dry, new, old), we need … Read moreFour Ways to Help Gay Men with Depression

GayTherapyLA Associate Clinicians: Interview with Matthew Allen, MA, APCC

Matthew Allen, MS, APCC – Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor

GayTherapyLA had the pleasure in April (2018) to hire Matthew Allen, MA, APCC, who is an Associate Professional Clinical Counselor, working as a new Associate Clinician on weekday mornings and weekends at the GayTherapyLA offices on San Vicente near Sixth in LA/Beverly Hills.  I caught up with Matthew to ask him about himself, and the … Read moreGayTherapyLA Associate Clinicians: Interview with Matthew Allen, MA, APCC

Gay Therapist Discusses “Love, Simon” from a Gay Men’s Mental Health Perspective

Love, Simon - He's Done Keeping His Story Straight

Shrink at the Movies:  Loving “Love, Simon” from a Gay Men’s Mental Health Perspective In my work as a licensed psychotherapist and life/business coach specializing in gay men and therapy for gay male couples for over 26 years, I blog frequently on topics on LGBTQ+ mental health in general, and gay men’s therapy in particular, … Read moreGay Therapist Discusses “Love, Simon” from a Gay Men’s Mental Health Perspective