What is Daily Mental Health for Gay Men? Recently, on a Monday morning, I woke up ready to face the week and preparing to get my head in the game doing my work as a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and life/career/relationship coach. I had my usual morning routine, and a thought came to me about … Read more
Ken Howard
Top 10 Reasons Gay Couples Break Up and How to Prevent Them
Top 10 Reasons Gay Couples Break Up and How to Prevent Them: My 30 Years as a Gay Men’s Couples Therapist As a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist, life/career/relationship coach, and AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, my clients sometimes ask about my perspective from having such a long career (31 years in 2023) working with gay men … Read more
Gay Men and Moving On In Life After Trauma
Gay Men and Moving On In Life After Trauma As a long-term gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and life/career/relationship coach, I often work with some of the most common psychological and psychiatric challenges any person can have, but they take on a deeper meaning for gay men and others in the LGBT+ community, or any group … Read more
Gay Men and New Year, New Sex: Mind, Heart, Body
Gay Men and New Year, New Sex: Mind, Heart, Body Happy New Year! As I start my 31st year as a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist, life/career/relationship coach, and AASECT-Certified sex therapist, I challenge myself to think of expansive, new ideas. The new year, for all of us, is like a blank piece of paper … Read more
Gay Men and Pets: Challenges & Rewards
Gay Men and Pets: Challenges & Rewards In an earlier article, I wrote about gay men seeking to satisfy their natural paternal instincts, even if they do not have children (that article is here). I wrote how gay men sometimes see their pets as their “children,” doting on them probably more than straight people do, … Read more
PART TWO – Gay Men’s Dating Situations That Are “No-Go” – And Their Alternatives
Gay Men’s Dating Situations That Are “No-Go” – And Their Alternatives – PART TWO In Part One of this article, I discussed topics that are a “no-go” in gay men’s dating situations, such as racism/bigotry, money neurosis, unresolved trauma, and several more. As a long-term (30 years in 2022) gay men’s specialist psychotherapist for individuals, … Read more
Gay Men and Trauma Recovery: Reclaiming Your Life
Gay Men and Trauma Recovery: Reclaiming Your Life What is Trauma? After being a gay men’s specialist therapist for 30 years now (in 2022), I am often humbled by the wonderful opportunity I have to be of service to gay men from so many different backgrounds, of ages, races, ethnicities, even nationalities, and in … Read more
Gay Male Relationships and the ADD/OCD Syndrome
“Gay Male Relationships and the ADD/OCD Syndrome” In my psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in gay men and gay male couples for what is now (in 2022) thirty years (whew!), I keep noticing a pattern in the gay male couples I serve that one partner seems to generally have a pattern of thinking and behavior … Read more
The Greeks’ Eight Types of Love as Applied to Gay Men
The Greeks’ Eight Types of Love as Applied to Gay Men As a long-term (29 years in 2021) gay men’s specialist psychotherapist, sex therapist, and life/career/relationship coach, I have a lot of clinical experience history to draw from to help new clients. Whenever we draw from history, we can find valuable resources from the past … Read more
Gay Men and When It’s Time to Break Up a Relationship
Gay Men and When It’s Time to Break Up a Relationship They say, “Love is grand.” And it is, really. In my 29 years (in 2021) as a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist, couples therapist, sex therapist, and life/career/executive coach, I’ve worked with hundreds of gay male couples to help them improve their relationships to try … Read more