Gay Therapist Tips for “Relationship 2.0”: Should I Go Back with My Ex?

As a gay men’s specialist therapist for individuals and for gay men’s relationships for over 27 years, I notice how certain themes come up regularly.  Lately, several of my clients have presented the dilemma in their therapy of whether they should go back with an ex, and form a “Version 2.0” new/resumed relationship with them. … Read moreGay Therapist Tips for “Relationship 2.0”: Should I Go Back with My Ex?

A Gay Therapist Confronts Toxic Masculinity: A Call for Resistance to Gender Conformity Enforcement

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Gay Men and Toxic Masculinity:  A Call for Resistance to Gender Conformity Enforcement As the founder and director of GayTherapyLA, a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in therapy for gay men and counseling for gay male couples (26 years), a theme that I see among clients from time to time includes the gay male client’s … Read moreA Gay Therapist Confronts Toxic Masculinity: A Call for Resistance to Gender Conformity Enforcement

Gay Therapist Offers Four Ways to Help Gay Men with Depression

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Gay Men and Depression: Four Strategies for Help As a specialist in therapy for gay men for over 26 years, by far the most common problem that I see in my office is about depression.  I always joke that if the Eskimos supposedly have 23 different words for snow (wet, dry, new, old), we need … Read moreGay Therapist Offers Four Ways to Help Gay Men with Depression

Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series: #2 – Making the Most of Your Past, Present, and Future

Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series: #2 – Making the Most of Your Past, Present, and Future This is the second of a ten-part series that I call “The Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series”, based on what my clients at GayTherapyLA (my therapy and coaching practice that specializes in gay men, for the past … Read moreGay Men’s Skills of Living Series: #2 – Making the Most of Your Past, Present, and Future

Gay Therapist Helps Gay Men with Depression Overcome Fears of Psychiatric Medications

Gay Men with Depression: Overcoming Fears of Psychiatric Medications and Making Them Work for You In my psychotherapy practice as a long-time (25 years) specialist in therapy for gay men and gay male couples, I’ve been concerned lately especially about two clients who are gay men with depression (another article on depression is here), with … Read moreGay Therapist Helps Gay Men with Depression Overcome Fears of Psychiatric Medications

Gay Therapist Gives Tips for Gay Men Aging Gracefully: Part I: Emotionally and Physically

Part I:  Emotionally and Physically In this three-part series of blog articles, I’d like to share some of the ways that I’ve seen my gay male clients benefit from therapy in a way that most people probably don’t think about:  how therapy helps with a healthy aging.  As a specialist in LGBT affirmative therapy, and … Read moreGay Therapist Gives Tips for Gay Men Aging Gracefully: Part I: Emotionally and Physically

Gay Men’s Relationships: How Your Therapy Affects Your Partner

There are times in my psychotherapy practice with gay men (individuals and couples) when I’m working with an individual, and the subject of the client’s partner comes up, and how the partner feels about his partner (my client) being in therapy.  The apparent reactions (well, at least according to my client’s reports of them) are … Read moreGay Men’s Relationships: How Your Therapy Affects Your Partner

Single Gay Men in Search of a Relationship: This is Not Your Parents’ Marriage

In my psychotherapy practice, I often work with single gay men in search of a relationship.  Are you sometimes frustrated that you are still single? I hear this a lot in my psychotherapy and coaching practice, where for over 24 years, I have helped gay men deal with this situation. There is no one “magic … Read moreSingle Gay Men in Search of a Relationship: This is Not Your Parents’ Marriage

Gay Men and the Bar/Club/Party Scene: When Is ‘Enough is Enough’?

A friend of mine who has experience in bar/club promotion was talking to me at an Oscar party and was waxing philosophical about a variety of issues in the gay community.  We are both middle-aged, and he was musing about when "enough is enough" for gay men in participating in the bar/club/party scene.  He told … Read moreGay Men and the Bar/Club/Party Scene: When Is ‘Enough is Enough’?

January 22, 2011: My Xtranormal Adventure: ‘Selecting a Gym in West Hollywood’

By now, many people have seen the Xtranormal.com video, “Selecting a Gym in West Hollywood”.  In fact, as of today, 8,699 people have seen it on YouTube, and on the original Xtranormal.com site, 13,753. What many people don’t know is, I wrote it — along with my husband, Michael Ryan.  We were just kind of … Read moreJanuary 22, 2011: My Xtranormal Adventure: ‘Selecting a Gym in West Hollywood’