Gay Therapist’s Tips for Gay Men’s Life Success: Don’t Avoid the Painful Stuff

Gay Men’s Fitness and Gay Men’s Life Success:  Don’t Avoid the Painful Stuff   No Pain, No Gain As a therapist and life coach who specializes in gay men and gay male couples (for over 25 years now), I’ve noticed a theme in recent sessions over the past few weeks that I wanted to share … Read moreGay Therapist’s Tips for Gay Men’s Life Success: Don’t Avoid the Painful Stuff

Gay Therapist Gives Tips for Gay Men Aging Gracefully: Part I: Emotionally and Physically

Part I:  Emotionally and Physically In this three-part series of blog articles, I’d like to share some of the ways that I’ve seen my gay male clients benefit from therapy in a way that most people probably don’t think about:  how therapy helps with a healthy aging.  As a specialist in LGBT affirmative therapy, and … Read moreGay Therapist Gives Tips for Gay Men Aging Gracefully: Part I: Emotionally and Physically

Gay Men’s Relationships: How Your Therapy Affects Your Partner

There are times in my psychotherapy practice with gay men (individuals and couples) when I’m working with an individual, and the subject of the client’s partner comes up, and how the partner feels about his partner (my client) being in therapy.  The apparent reactions (well, at least according to my client’s reports of them) are … Read moreGay Men’s Relationships: How Your Therapy Affects Your Partner

Gay Men Keeping Perspective: Quality of Life for A Place in History

Many factors affect your quality of life, just day-to-day.  But one tip that I have used that helps me, and the clients I counsel and coach, is to keep perspective about your personal life, your work, and your social life in an historical context of the age in history in which we live.  Many people … Read moreGay Men Keeping Perspective: Quality of Life for A Place in History

January 8, 2011: New Year, New Hip, New Movies (“Black Swan”/”The King’s Speech”)

Happy New Year! In the January issue of my e-newsletter, “Self-Empowerment: Have the Life You Want!”, I’ll be discussing how to set your goals for 2011 to feel empowered to make the positive changes in your life that you want to see over the next 12 months. Sign up now on my home page to … Read moreJanuary 8, 2011: New Year, New Hip, New Movies (“Black Swan”/”The King’s Speech”)

December 16, 2010: The HIV ‘Cure’ and Never Say Never

With the news this week that a man has been declared officially “cured” of HIV by way of stem cell therapy (http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2010/12/14/hiv-cure-berlin-patient_n_796521.html), I was heartened, to say the least. Immediately, my mind went to two things: one was about what this means for the immediate future of HIV eradication research, and how soon could something … Read moreDecember 16, 2010: The HIV ‘Cure’ and Never Say Never

December 3, 2010: Have You Been Naughty or Nice? Reviewing Personal Ethics

I was driving with the radio on the other day, and a holiday ad came on that started with, “Have you been naughty or nice this year?” My first reaction was, “Hmmmmm. Define ‘naughty’.” And then I got to thinking: Just how DO we assess our own personal ethics for the year? Have I been … Read moreDecember 3, 2010: Have You Been Naughty or Nice? Reviewing Personal Ethics

Gay Men’s Career Confidence: Do You Have ‘Professional Self-Esteem’?

What is professional self-esteem? In recent years in my psychotherapy practice, I have noticed a dramatic increase in the demand for more “coaching”-style services, and I have been happy to develop this for my clients. There are personal coaching issues, to be sure, but what I find much more frequently is that clients need professional … Read moreGay Men’s Career Confidence: Do You Have ‘Professional Self-Esteem’?

November 3, 2010: On Twenty Years of Living with HIV

Living with HIV:   It was 20 years ago today, November 3rd, 1990, that  I was diagnosed with HIV.  Knowing this “anniversary” was coming up, I was thinking about how to write about it.  I had things in mind, like a bullet-pointed “highlights” of the challenges and even perhaps “rewarding” or at least “poignant” experiences … Read moreNovember 3, 2010: On Twenty Years of Living with HIV

October 22, 2010: Election Season and Gay Men’s Mental Health: Season of the ‘Wicked Witches’

My take on this election season is:  Hoo-whee!  There is a WHOLE lotta crazy goin’ on! From Christine O’Donnell, the senatorial candidate in Delaware, confusing witchcraft with Satanism (a common mistake, but annoying as hell (so to speak) to Wiccans/Pagans), to Vicky Hartzler, the venomously anti-gay House candidate in Missouri, to Sharron Angle, senatorial candidate … Read moreOctober 22, 2010: Election Season and Gay Men’s Mental Health: Season of the ‘Wicked Witches’