Gay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom In my long career (27 years) working with gay male couples as a therapist and relationship coach, I tend to see the same problems gay male couples have in therapy over and over – but, fortunately, there are often similar solutions. One of the professional … Read moreGay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom
One of the most common themes I hear in my psychotherapy practice in Los Angeles (specializing in therapy and coaching for gay men, and gay male couples, for over 27 years) is in relationships (Gay Relationship Inequality) where one partner has a complaint that he feels his partner is not “making an equal contribution to … Read moreGay Couples Therapy Challenges: “My Partner Isn’t Contributing Equally!”
As a gay men’s specialist therapist for individuals and for gay men’s relationships for over 27 years, I notice how certain themes come up regularly. Lately, several of my clients have presented the dilemma in their therapy of whether they should go back with an ex, and form a “Version 2.0” new/resumed relationship with them. … Read moreGay Tips for “Relationship 2.0”: Should I Go Back with My Ex?
Gay Men and Friendships: How to Cope with the Breakup of a Friendship As a gay male therapist with over 26 years of experience, I’ve seen many clients have to deal with how interpersonal relationships in their lives change over time. Much of the time, I help guys with dating and romantic/domestic relationship issues, but lately some … Read moreA Gay Therapist Gives Tips on How Gay Men Can Cope with the Breakup of a Friendship
Problem-Solving in Gay Men’s Open Relationships: Special Topics In a number of previous blog articles on gay men’s relationships in general, and gay open relationships in particular, such as How to Have An Open Relationship Without Hurt Feelings, Part One and Part Two, I’ve discussed how research shows that about half of gay male couples … Read moreTips for Problem-Solving in Gay Men’s Open Relationships from a Gay Therapist
In my psychotherapy practice, I often work with single gay men in search of a relationship. Are you sometimes frustrated that you are still single? I hear this a lot in my psychotherapy and coaching practice, where for over 24 years, I have helped gay men deal with this situation. There is no one “magic … Read moreSingle Gay Men in Search of a Relationship: This is Not Your Parents’ Marriage
In my psychotherapy practice specializing in gay male individuals and gay male couples over the past 24 years, I have worked with many guys who need help because they are upset after discovering that their boyfriend or partner/spouse was “cheating” on them. I hesitate to even use the word “cheating” because it implies that it’s … Read moreGay Male Relationships: How Can I Prevent My Partner from Cheating? Common Reasons for Cheating and How to Manage Them
A therapist’s office (similar to a physician’s or lawyer’s office) is a place to talk about things that would be difficult to talk about almost anywhere else except behind closed doors at home. This is why psychotherapy has a long tradition of strict confidentiality: what’s said in therapy, stays in therapy, with the exception of … Read moreThree’s Company: The Right Way and the Wrong Way to Have a Gay Men’s Three-Way
In my psychotherapy practice as a gay men’s specialty therapist for over 22 years, no topic among couples therapy is more frequent than that of the “monogamy vs. non-monogamy” debate. This is not an easy topic, and trying to over-simplify it just gets you into trouble. It IS, indeed, complex, and it takes time and … Read moreHotter Monogamy for Gay Men
One of the positive stereotypes that are assigned to gay men (as welcome respite to so many negative ones) is that we have good taste. Our sense of our clothes, grooming, cars, and homes are respected to be stylish, up-to-date, and of good design and quality. But is this so for everyone? Recently I … Read moreGay Men’s Domiciles: Is Your House a Home?