Topics in Sex Therapy for Gay Men:  Overcoming Fear of Bottoming

[WARNING: CONTAINS SEX THERAPY CONTENT NOT SUITABLE FOR UNDER 18] I’ve been a specialist in therapy and coaching for gay men for over 27 years, as individuals and couples.  I work with guys on lots of issues and disorders, such as depression, bipolar disorder, OCD, ADD, substance abuse recovery, dating skills, career planning, and couples … Read moreTopics in Sex Therapy for Gay Men:  Overcoming Fear of Bottoming

Guest Blog: Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi on Bullying and the LGBTQ+ Community

Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi

Bullying and the LGBTQ+ Community (by Brandon Malde-Zoradi, MA, AMFT, APCC) I’ve always had a love for movies and shows that take place in high school. Mean Girls, Clueless, 10 Things I Hate About You, Heathers, Buffy The Vampire Slayer, and many other titles come to mind when I think of my favorite drama-filled, hormone-driven … Read moreGuest Blog: Gay Therapist Brandon Malde-Zoradi on Bullying and the LGBTQ+ Community

Toxic Masculinity: A Call for Resistance to Gender Conformity Enforcement

A Gay Therapist Confronts Toxic Masculinity: A Call for Resistance to Gender Conformity Enforcement

Gay Men and Toxic Masculinity:  A Call for Resistance to Gender Conformity Enforcement As the founder and director of GayTherapyLA, a psychotherapy and coaching practice specializing in therapy for gay men and counseling for gay male couples (26 years), a theme that I see among clients from time to time includes the gay male client’s … Read moreToxic Masculinity: A Call for Resistance to Gender Conformity Enforcement

Gay Therapist on Ghosting: Why Gay Men Do It, How We Cope

Dissolving in nature. Finding his inspiration in nature, posing with touching his shoulder and lowering his head at side

Gay Men and Ghosting:  Why We Do It, How We Cope In the blogosphere, there have already been some articles on gay men and ghosting, but none of them go into any real depth from a mental health point of view, and in my 26 years as a psychotherapist who specializes in therapy for gay … Read moreGay Therapist on Ghosting: Why Gay Men Do It, How We Cope

Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series: #2 – Making the Most of Your Past, Present, and Future

Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series: #2 – Making the Most of Your Past, Present, and Future This is the second of a ten-part series that I call “The Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series”, based on what my clients at GayTherapyLA (my therapy and coaching practice that specializes in gay men, for the past … Read moreGay Men’s Skills of Living Series: #2 – Making the Most of Your Past, Present, and Future

Gay Therapist Gives Tips for Gay Men Aging Gracefully: Part II: Socially and Culturally

In part I of this three-part series, (How Therapy Can Help You Age Gracefully: A Guide for Gay Men (Part I: Emotionally and Physically), we looked how therapy can help gay men age gracefully from the emotional and physical points of view.  Today, I’d like to share two new aspects of how therapy can support … Read moreGay Therapist Gives Tips for Gay Men Aging Gracefully: Part II: Socially and Culturally

Gay Men’s Mental Health: 5 Tips for an Optimal Spring/Summer

Gay Men’s Mental Health:  5 Tips for an Optimal Spring/Summer Spring has sprung!  Spring is a nice time of year for many people, because things like the doldrums of winter can be shaken off and the spring/summer seasons can usually bring a lot of nice things like sunshine, outdoor socializing, extra daylight to work/play in, … Read moreGay Men’s Mental Health: 5 Tips for an Optimal Spring/Summer

Gay Male Sexual Abuse, Incest, and Rape Survivors: Characteristics and Coping

It’s a safe bet that every psychotherapist eventually will work with adults, male or female, who are survivors (I prefer this term over the word, “victims”) of childhood sexual abuse, incest, or sexual assault.  For the past 26 years, I have been a psychotherapist who specializes in working with gay men, and when I work … Read moreGay Male Sexual Abuse, Incest, and Rape Survivors: Characteristics and Coping

Gay Therapist Tips for Overcoming Fetish Guilt and Embracing Full-Spectrum Sexuality

Gay Therapist Tips for Overcoming Fetish Guilt and Embracing Full-Spectrum Sexuality

Last night I had the opportunity to attend the annual Mr. LA Leather event, part of LA Leather Pride Week.  One of my colleagues in the gay therapist community, Justin Natoli, MA, MFT Intern, who recently wrote a great piece on non-monogamy in gay male relationships, was one of the contestants. Another therapist colleague was … Read moreGay Therapist Tips for Overcoming Fetish Guilt and Embracing Full-Spectrum Sexuality

Three’s Company: The Right Way and the Wrong Way to Have a Gay Men’s Three-Way

A therapist’s office (similar to a physician’s or lawyer’s office) is a place to talk about things that would be difficult to talk about almost anywhere else except behind closed doors at home.  This is why psychotherapy has a long tradition of strict confidentiality:  what’s said in therapy, stays in therapy, with the exception of … Read moreThree’s Company: The Right Way and the Wrong Way to Have a Gay Men’s Three-Way