Gay Therapist Tips for “Relationship 2.0”: Should I Go Back with My Ex?

As a gay men’s specialist therapist for individuals and for gay men’s relationships for over 27 years, I notice how certain themes come up regularly.  Lately, several of my clients have presented the dilemma in their therapy of whether they should go back with an ex, and form a “Version 2.0” new/resumed relationship with them. … Read moreGay Therapist Tips for “Relationship 2.0”: Should I Go Back with My Ex?

Gay Therapist Offers Four Ways to Help Gay Men with Depression

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Gay Men and Depression: Four Strategies for Help As a specialist in therapy for gay men for over 26 years, by far the most common problem that I see in my office is about depression.  I always joke that if the Eskimos supposedly have 23 different words for snow (wet, dry, new, old), we need … Read moreGay Therapist Offers Four Ways to Help Gay Men with Depression

GayTherapyLA Associate Clinicians: Interview with Matthew Allen, MA, APCC

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GayTherapyLA had the pleasure in April (2018) to hire Matthew Allen, MA, APCC, who is an Associate Professional Clinical Counselor, working as a new Associate Clinician on weekday mornings and weekends at the GayTherapyLA offices on San Vicente near Sixth in LA/Beverly Hills.  I caught up with Matthew to ask him about himself, and the … Read moreGayTherapyLA Associate Clinicians: Interview with Matthew Allen, MA, APCC

Gay Therapist Discusses “Love, Simon” from a Gay Men’s Mental Health Perspective

Shrink at the Movies:  Loving “Love, Simon” from a Gay Men’s Mental Health Perspective In my work as a licensed psychotherapist and life/business coach specializing in gay men and therapy for gay male couples for over 26 years, I blog frequently on topics on LGBTQ+ mental health in general, and gay men’s therapy in particular, … Read moreGay Therapist Discusses “Love, Simon” from a Gay Men’s Mental Health Perspective

Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series: #2 – Making the Most of Your Past, Present, and Future

Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series: #2 – Making the Most of Your Past, Present, and Future This is the second of a ten-part series that I call “The Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series”, based on what my clients at GayTherapyLA (my therapy and coaching practice that specializes in gay men, for the past … Read moreGay Men’s Skills of Living Series: #2 – Making the Most of Your Past, Present, and Future

Gay Therapist Helps Gay Men with Depression Overcome Fears of Psychiatric Medications

Gay Men with Depression: Overcoming Fears of Psychiatric Medications and Making Them Work for You In my psychotherapy practice as a long-time (25 years) specialist in therapy for gay men and gay male couples, I’ve been concerned lately especially about two clients who are gay men with depression (another article on depression is here), with … Read moreGay Therapist Helps Gay Men with Depression Overcome Fears of Psychiatric Medications

Gay Therapist Gives Tips for Gay Men Aging Gracefully: Part II: Socially and Culturally

In part I of this three-part series, (How Therapy Can Help You Age Gracefully: A Guide for Gay Men (Part I: Emotionally and Physically), we looked how therapy can help gay men age gracefully from the emotional and physical points of view.  Today, I’d like to share two new aspects of how therapy can support … Read moreGay Therapist Gives Tips for Gay Men Aging Gracefully: Part II: Socially and Culturally

A Gay Therapist Weighs in on Gay Men and the Bar/Club/Party Scene: When Is ‘Enough is Enough’?

[A friend of mine who has experience in bar/club promotion was talking to me at an Oscar party and was waxing philosophical about a variety of issues in the gay community.  We are both middle-aged, and he was musing about when “enough is enough” for gay men in participating in the bar/club/party scene.  He told … Read moreA Gay Therapist Weighs in on Gay Men and the Bar/Club/Party Scene: When Is ‘Enough is Enough’?