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Gay Men and How to Reach Your Full Potential

Gay Men and How to Reach Your Full Potential From my perspective as a long term (31 years in 2023) gay men’s specialist psychotherapist and life/career/relationship coach, I often focus on helping gay men reach your full potential.  Another way of saying this, which has been a long-term theme of my practice, is to help … Read more

The Gay Male Executive: Coaching for Success

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The Gay Male Executive: Coaching for Success In my experience (31 years in 2023) as a gay men’s specialist psychotherapist, I’ve met and worked w hundreds of gay male executives, who are among the demographic of the population who can afford private practice psychotherapy from a seasoned, experienced, multi-credentialed, specialist provider.  As my career in … Read more

Gay Men and Gym Crushes: Cherish Your Romantic Notions

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Gay Men and Gym Crushes: Cherish Your Romantic Notions Recently, a friend of mine at lunch mentioned that someone at a nearby table looked like his “gym crush.”  It turned out not to be, and my friend told another story, but his use of the terminology stayed with me, and got me thinking.  That term … Read more

Four Ways to Help Gay Men with Depression

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Gay Men and Depression: Four Strategies for Help As a specialist in therapy for gay men for over 26 years, by far the most common problem that I see in my office is about depression.  I always joke that if the Eskimos supposedly have 23 different words for snow (wet, dry, new, old), we need … Read more

Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series: #2 – Making the Most of Your Past, Present, and Future

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Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series: #2 – Making the Most of Your Past, Present, and Future This is the second of a ten-part series that I call “The Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series”, based on what my clients at GayTherapyLA (my therapy and coaching practice that specializes in gay men, for the past … Read more

How Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 2: Techniques

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How Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 2: Techniques In Part 1 of this article, I shared some of the traits of resilient people that have been described by Susan Dunn, in her “Top 10 Attributes of Resilient People”, among others.  Resilience is the ability to adapt and grow from adversity, … Read more

How Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 1: Traits

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Whether it’s Trump’s election and his appointment of virulently anti-gay cabinet members (my article on that is here), or just everyday life challenges that would be there regardless, gay men need support to face stressors of various kinds.  Things happen that are barriers, setbacks, and losses, and when they do, we need to mobilize both … Read more

Gay Therapist Reviews “Florence Foster Jenkins” (2016): Shrink at the Movies

[SPOILER ALERT: SOME PLOT POINTS REVEALED] For readers who are unfamiliar with this series, “Shrink at the Movies” is a not-very-consistent string of essays (ponderings, I like to call them) from my point of view as both a licensed psychotherapist in California (Licensed Clinical Social Worker, or LCSW) and as a life-long movie fan.  Being … Read more

How ‘Uptown Funk’ Treadmill Dancer Carson Dean is a Hero for Our Times

This otherwise fairly normal news week in cyberspace was punctuated with a vibrant exclamation point in the form of the viral video  currently circulating the globe from a young Los Angeles gymnast, singer, dancer, model, and choreographer by the name of Carson Dean (or, as he is known most this week, “that guy doing that … Read more

Gay Men’s Success in Building a Business or Self-Employment: If You Build It, They Will Come

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One of the things that I do in my practice as a specialist in therapy for gay men (27 years), as well as career coaching for gay men, that most other therapists don’t do, is that I provide career and business coaching sessions (in my office, over the phone, or over Skype) for guys who … Read more