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Gay Men: Superheroes as Role Models

Gay Men: Superheroes as Role Models As a gay men’s specialist licensed psychotherapist and life/career/relationship coach, I reflect on the many influences that inform my values, opinions, interests, skills, perspectives, challenges, and rewards, and how I bring those to my work with clients in my psychotherapy and coaching services practice. Today, I’d like to share … Read more

Gay Men as Workplace Supervisors: Survival Tips for When You’re the New Boss

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For over 24 years, my specialty as a therapist and life/business coach has been working with gay men.  For many topics, treating or coaching a gay man is very similar to how a woman (straight or gay) or a straight man would be.  However, “cultural competency” in working with gay men demands that the provider … Read more

Gay Men and the Mental Health Aspects of Working from Home

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Gay Men and the Mental Health Aspects of Working from Home If you do a Google search on “tips on working from home,” you find almost too many returns.  It’s overwhelming.  I did a survey of them informally, and tried to find the “best of” those lists.  But what’s missing from them is where I … Read more

Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series: #1 – Reclaiming Your Time

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Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series: #1 – Reclaiming Your Time In this 10-part blog series on Gay Men’s Skills of Living, the first one, today, is about gay men and time management.  Since the beginning of this year, I’ve noticed that more of my clients are talking about positive, practical, empowering changes they want … Read more

Mastermind Groups for Gay Men: How to Take Your Career Higher

Would you like to earn more money, work in the field you want, and make steady progress until you’re at the height of your chosen career field? Most gay men (and, indeed, most people) that I know would say “yes” to all of those.  However, only some will achieve that.  In general, gay men deal … Read more

An Older Gay Therapist’s Advice for Younger Gay Men: 12 Tips to Improve Your Life — Now and Later

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In my private practice of psychotherapy and coaching, I enjoy working with gay men (and others) of all ages.  While I see many guys at midlife (especially for relationship or career issues), I also work with younger gay men (also for relationship and career issues!).  I admire the young guys I see, and their outlook … Read more

Gay Therapists Gives Tips on How Gay Men Build Confidence

One of the most common themes I see in my office doing counseling, psychotherapy, and coaching with gay male individuals and gay couples is that of low self-esteem and low self-confidence.  It’s not surprising; as little gay boys, we get exposed to anti-gay messages outright, or at least to the “invisibility” that comes with the … Read more

Managing Recession Anxiety: How to Cope with Layoff

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[THIS WAS ORIGINALLY PUBLISHED IN 2009, DURING THE “GREAT RECESSION”.  HOWEVER, IT IS STILL RELEVANT TODAY FOR ANYONE REGARDING THE TOPIC OF LAYOFF OR JOB LOSS, OR EVEN WORK SLOWDOWN DURING ANY ECONOMICALLY-STRESSED TIME.] While the current economic recession* (2009) may spare many of us as gay men, who are often considered an “affluent” segment … Read more