Gay Sex Therapist on Sexual Mental Health:  The Triumvirate of Self, Partner, and Others

Gay Sex Therapist on Sexual Mental Health:  The Triumvirate of Self, Partner, and Others Sex Therapy: A Background As a long-term (29 years in 2021) gay men’s specialist therapist and gay sex therapist, relatively recently becoming an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (the national credential), I have worked with hundreds or thousands of gay men to … Read more

Gay Relationships and the ‘Sexual Thaw’: Restoring Sex After a Long Stalemate

In a recent informal Facebook poll I conducted on suggested blog topics, this topic won the most votes, so here goes:  (Readers are encouraged to notify me at Ken@GayTherapyLA.com if you have suggestions for future blog/podcast topics.) In my long (28 years in 2020) career providing therapy and coaching for gay men, couples therapy for … Read more

Gay Men and Sex During COVID-19

As I continue to see clients online during this “COVID Era” as I call it, I notice patterns of how “my guys” are coping.  Of course, dealing with the whole COVID-19 pandemic and its many stressors about the economy, work, housing during quarantine, relationships, and dating manifest in different ways, depending on where you live (where … Read more

Gay Men’s Relationship Advice: How to Succeed in an Age-Difference Relationship

As a very long-term (28 years) specialist in therapy for gay men, I’m asked often for gay men’s relationship advice, especially how to overcome some of the most common and classic challenges in gay relationships.  Among these are questions about gay relationship situational difficulties that have to do with where and how we live, such as … Read more

Two Bottoms, Two Tops:  A Gay Men’s Relationship Dilemma – Now What?

2 gay men in bed with one sitting on the edge looking frustrated

In my private practice specializing in gay men’s therapy and coaching (for over 28 years), and more recently specializing more in sex therapy issues, one of the challenges that guys bring to me fairly frequently in asking for help is the dilemma of being in a very good relationship that neither partner wants to leave, … Read more

Gay Men’s Sexuality: Three Types of Erectile Dysfunction and Their Interventions

Gay Men’s Sexuality: Three Types of Erectile Dysfunction and Their Interventions [Warning:  This is an adult clinical discussion of sex therapy topics provided by a licensed clinical social worker and trained sex therapist.  It is not restricted adult content, nor is it literary erotica or “pornography,” but reader discretion is advised if you are sensitive … Read more

Gay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom

Gay Men’s Relationships: Reconciling the Living Room with the Bedroom In my long career (27 years) working with gay male couples as a therapist and relationship coach, I tend to see the same problems gay male couples have in therapy over and over – but, fortunately, there are often similar solutions.  One of the professional … Read more

Topics in Sex Therapy for Gay Men:  Overcoming Fear of Topping

[WARNING: CONTAINS SEX THERAPY CONTENT NOT SUITABLE FOR UNDER 18] In part one of this two-part article on gay men’s fears in sex, I discussed the fear of bottoming.  In this part, we look at gay men who have a fear of topping instead. I’ve been a specialist in therapy and coaching for gay men … Read more

Three’s Company: The Right Way and the Wrong Way to Have a Gay Men’s Three-Way

three men sit on a couch with their feet one, one raises a TV remote

A therapist’s office (similar to a physician’s or lawyer’s office) is a place to talk about things that would be difficult to talk about almost anywhere else except behind closed doors at home.  This is why psychotherapy has a long tradition of strict confidentiality:  what’s said in therapy, stays in therapy, with the exception of … Read more