Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series: #2 – Making the Most of Your Past, Present, and Future

Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series: #2 – Making the Most of Your Past, Present, and Future This is the second of a ten-part series that I call “The Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series”, based on what my clients at GayTherapyLA (my therapy and coaching practice that specializes in gay men, for the past … Read more Gay Men’s Skills of Living Series: #2 – Making the Most of Your Past, Present, and Future

Hotter Monogamy for Gay Men

In my psychotherapy practice as a gay men’s specialty therapist for over 22 years, no topic among couples therapy is more frequent than that of the “monogamy vs. non-monogamy” debate.  This is not an easy topic, and trying to over-simplify it just gets you into trouble.  It IS, indeed, complex, and it takes time and … Read more Hotter Monogamy for Gay Men

Gay Men’s Relationships: Ten Ways They Differ from Straight Relationships

As I think back on the past 24 years (by 2014) of providing couples counseling for gay male relationships, I sometimes get asked what the differences are that I see (in general) in gay male relationships that are (in general) different from straight relationships.  In no particular order, below, are some of my thoughts.  I … Read more Gay Men’s Relationships: Ten Ways They Differ from Straight Relationships

Finding Mr. Right in Gay Men’s Dating: The Six Lights Theory

In my private practice as a psychotherapist, I work frequently with gay couples seeking conjoint therapy to address a variety of challenges in their relationships.  In my practice in therapy for gay men since 1992, I have come to notice certain consistent patterns in what drives conflict between either long-term couples, or couples who recently … Read more Finding Mr. Right in Gay Men’s Dating: The Six Lights Theory