The New COVID-19 Coping: Balancing “Toxic Positivity” with “Adaptive Coping”

The New COVID-19 Coping: Balancing “Toxic Positivity” with “Adaptive Coping” This week (April 13, 2020), as we enter further into global “stay at home orders”, I’m noticing several mental health providers do some push-back to the more positive messages about coping with the current COVID-19 crisis and working from home.  My last three blog articles … Read more

Mental Health During COVID-19:  Next to Normal

Mental Health During COVID-19: Next to Normal Those who know me well know that I have a life-long obsession with Broadway musicals, recently having completed writing the book, music, and lyrics for a musical of my own, “On the Boulevard,” which takes place in my own very home of West Hollywood, California, a modern re-telling … Read more

Four Ways to Help Gay Men with Depression

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Gay Men and Depression: Four Strategies for Help As a specialist in therapy for gay men for over 26 years, by far the most common problem that I see in my office is about depression.  I always joke that if the Eskimos supposedly have 23 different words for snow (wet, dry, new, old), we need … Read more

Gay Therapist Discusses “Toxic Busy”: How Much Is Too Much for Gay Men?

"Toxic Busy": How Much Is Too Much for Gay Men?

Recently in my psychotherapy and coaching practice that has focused on gay men and gay male couples for over 26 years, a client started a session by talking about his previous week.  “How was this week?” I asked. “Oh, boy.  Lots going on.  Been busy.  Very busy.  Toxic busy!” That phrase struck me. “Toxic busy”.  … Read more

Gay Men with Depression Overcoming Fears of Psychiatric Medications

Gay Men with Depression: Overcoming Fears of Psychiatric Medications and Making Them Work for You In my psychotherapy practice as a long-time (25 years) specialist in therapy for gay men and gay male couples, I’ve been concerned lately especially about two clients who are gay men with depression (another article on depression is here), with … Read more

How Gay Men Can Face Any Problem: Developing Resilience – Part 1: Traits

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Whether it’s Trump’s election and his appointment of virulently anti-gay cabinet members (my article on that is here), or just everyday life challenges that would be there regardless, gay men need support to face stressors of various kinds.  Things happen that are barriers, setbacks, and losses, and when they do, we need to mobilize both … Read more

The Gym/Fitness Connection in Gay Men’s Mental Health

It’s not true that all gay men spend an inordinate amount of time in the gym, but it sure seems like it’s all of them.  For most gay men, it’s just routine.  There is something about gay male culture world-wide that seems to support the “gym lifestyle”, whether it’s for health reasons or for the … Read more