Specialized Services in Counseling, Therapy, and Coaching for Gay Men and Gay Male Couples for Over 20 Years

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Because maybe you're just more comfortable with a gay male therapist who 'gets it'…

GayTherapyLA is a multi-service psychotherapy and coaching practice in West Hollywood, California, founded by Ken Howard, LCSW, and is dedicated to helping gay men (individuals and couples) reach their full potential at every phase of life by providing state-of-the-art, gay-affirmative therapy — weekdays, weeknights, and weekends — in person and via Skype/Phone/Email sessions. At over 22 years, Ken Howard, LCSW is the most experienced gay men's specialist therapist in Los Angeles.   

You're not alone.  You CAN make the changes you need to feel good about your life, with help. 

Do you find yourself…

  • Feeling lonely in your own relationship?
  • Discouraged by your career?
  • Feeling out of control about sex, drinking, using, or spending?
  • Dealing with coming out — to yourself, your co-workers, or your family?
  • Coping with the after-effects of "reparative" or "conversion" therapy, or religious-based oppression or homophobia?
  • Wanting to learn how to make more money, or develop lifelong skills in money management?
  • Wondering about how to cope with changes at Midlife?
  • Trying to be at your creative and commercial best as an actor, writer, or other creative professional?
  • Concerned about the times when your anger gets out of control?  
  • Wanting a more fulfilling sex life, being single or partnered, but not sure how to get it?
  • Grieving the loss of someone from death or a breakup?
  • Overwhelmed trying to manage back taxes, student loans, credit card debt, or other finances?
  • Haunted by experiences of emotional, sexual, or physical abuse as a child?
  • Anxious about an important decision you need to make, such as relocating to another city, or marrying your partner?
  • Struggling to cope with HIV (diagnosis, treatment, disclosure, stigma, or fear of transmission)?
  • Coping with another medical challenge, such as a serious illness or a major injury?
  • Managing the stress of a workplace discrimination conflict, or the legal/administrative aspects of fighting it?
  • Scared that alcohol or drug use (for yourself, or someone close to you) has gotten out of hand?
  • Tired of arguments and conflict with your partner, boss, roommate, co-worker, or neighbor?    

Life’s challenges can sometimes leave you feeling frustrated, overwhelmed, and exhausted. 

Therapy or coaching from a licensed therapist who is an experienced SPECIALIST in gay men and couples can help you overcome these challenges, in a gay men's cultural and social context, can help you learn to live your best life!

Benefits of Therapy or Coaching:

Therapy (or life/business coaching) with me is an investment of your time, money, and energy, and I respect that.  We make every session count.  We work together in a collaboration as a team to help you achieve the goals that you identify as important to you. 

As a result of our working together, you can:

  • Learn to forgive yourself and others, and learn to love yourself.
  • Strengthen your self-esteem and affirm your personal rights.
  • Escape from an abusive relationship and move on with your life. 
  • Manage your body weight and learn to eat, exercise, and take care of yourself better than ever before. 
  • Liberate yourself from the burdens of addictions (such as crystal meth, cocaine, heroin, opiates, and others) in yourself, or in a partner.
  • Learn to explore, accept, and validate your sexuality, including fetishes and fantasies. 
  • Overcome what some other therapists call "sex addiction" — but in a sex-positive, empowering, and affirming way that's unlike ANY other local treatment available.
  • Cope with a diagnosis of HIV, cancer, MS, or another medical challenge, get the most from treatment, and learn to use your thoughts to take control and thrive.
  • Establish your unique role and contribution to the world, professionally and personally.
  • Get your mental outlook, health, personal fitness, home, and finances organized. 
  • Discover new and effective strategies for solving life’s problems that you can use today, and for future challenges in your life.
  • Build your self-confidence in your work, dating, and social life. 
  • Learn techniques for managing emotions like anger, sadness, frustration, and even learn to cope with success in the long term.
  • Improve your ability to identify and evaluate your options, so that you make better decisions in all areas of your life.
  • Learn how to communicate your needs assertively to get what you want, while still respecting the rights of others.
  • Improve communications with everyone you interact with.

Making changes in thinking and behavior, working to improve yourself, can be scary.  But it also can be exciting and ultimately personally fulfilling.  I use only "evidence-based" therapy and counseling techniques that research has shown lead to positive outcomes.  I also offer Life/Business Coaching, and I can explain the differences when we talk. 

Because I have helped so many gay men, just like you, during my career of over 22 years, I have probably helped others in the past many times with similar problems to yours.  You get the benefit of my perspective working with many guys in the past who have faced, and resolved, the same challenges that you're facing now.  


(For more information, click on the headings below)

Gay Men’s Therapy

I practice what is called Gay-Affirmative Therapy.  This therapy model assumes that being gay is not “the problem”, but living with additional social pressures and homophobia in our culture can make existing problems worse.  Gay-Affirmative Therapy puts you, and the challenges you’re trying to resolve, in a gay-positive social context.  Unlike straight therapists, I understand all the cultural and social issues that gay men face, first-hand.  It’s not just my job, it’s my life.  You save time by not having to explain terminology or other gay men’s cultural issues.  This saves you time (and money) to get to the heart of the issues, and get relief faster.  While I sometimes work with lesbians, bisexuals, and transgender people, my focus is not just broadly “LGBT”.  I am specifically an expert in working with gay men, almost exclusively, and this has been a focus of my clinical work, research, teaching, writing, and speaking, for over 20 years.  No other therapist in Los Angeles can claim this.

Couples Counseling and Relationship Coaching

I provide a unique model of gay men’s relationship counseling that can you and your partner/spouse identify, clarify, and resolve the conflicts that are keeping you from your best life together. Based on over 20 years of my helping couples resolve issues, you benefit from the examples and strategies of the couples who have solved problems like yours.

Weekend Sessions (Fri/Sat/Sun) with Clinical Associate Staff

I have appointment times available Monday through Friday, day and evening, and I have two clinical associates who are available on Saturdays and Sundays if you need an appointment on the weekend.

Skype/Phone/Email Sessions

I work in my office in West Hollywood, but if you can’t come in person, I also provide sessions (therapy or coaching) over the phone and via Skype, whether locally (LA/West Hollywood, California),  nation-wide, or globally.  I also provide email-based consultation.  Payment is easy through credit card on file, or via PayPal.

Counseling for HIV Issues: Prevention, Diagnosis, Relationships, Thriving

As a 23-year survivor and person living with HIV myself, I have developed an expertise in HIV mental health issues since 1990.  I served nine years as the Chair of the Los Angeles County HIV Mental Health Task Force, and was Clinical Director of two local AIDS service organizations.  I have a unique approach to counseling gay men living with HIV, whether newly-diagnosed, HIV-negative but having questions/concerns, or long-term survivors.

Executive Coaching

The life of a corporate executive can have many stressors and many rewards.  There can be a certain “lonely at the top” feeling, and gay male executives need a place where they can discuss issues in full confidentiality, sometimes about high-level decisions, operations, and dilemmas.  I provide coaching to help you reach your full potential professionally, and balance that with a satisfying personal life as well.

Recovery from Addictions

Issues with alcohol and drugs can be prominent in the gay community.  After over 21 years in practice, I have helped hundreds of guys come to terms with these problems, and be liberated from the burden that “too much”, for yourself or a partner/friend, can be.  My unique and comprehensive approach to recovery and well-being has proven successful with them, and it can be for you, too.

Career Coaching and Job Issues

One of the most frequent types of assistance I’m asked for is helping gay men take their career success to the next level.  Whether you are a young man just starting out, in mid-career, or approaching (or even into) retirement, career coaching in a uniquely gay-affirmative context can help you thrive at each stage, in career evolution, satisfaction, reward, recognition, and income.



High-Profile Clients

As a licensed psychotherapist in the Los Angeles area, home of the “Hollywood” entertainment industry, I often work with high-profile clients and people in the public eye.  While this status can be rewarding, it can also provide unique challenges most people will not have to face, or even can’t relate to.  This is especially true for openly gay or for “closeted” gay or bisexual personalities.  With full confidentiality, local convenience, and a discreet location, high-profile clients are served with dignity and the relief of having a special space away from all other obligations to bring concerns and receive support, validation, and perspective on the unique challenges you face.

Actors, Writers, Designers, and Creative Professionals

The challenges that creative professionals face can be unique.  Counseling and coaching can help you maximize your creative development, while paying careful attention to the commercial side that’s necessary for your growth and stability.  When actors resolve their personal challenges, their instrument is more attuned to embrace characters.  When writers identify and explore their own values, priorities, themes, and the “voice” they want to express, they produce their best and most poignant works.  When your personal self is relaxed, de-stressed, and motivated, your best creative work can emerge, leading to reward and recognition.

Counseling for Straight Men/Women

While I am a specialist in working with gay men, I also have been successful helping many straight men by knowing men’s psychology issues that span men of all kinds.  I’ve also been successful helping straight women from the perspective of a male, helping you to grow and approach challenges from a contrasting perspective.  My location in the heart of West Hollywood makes services at my office convenient for many local homes and offices.

Motivational Speaking and Workshops

In addition to my work as a therapist, professor, and author, I provide keynote and workshop talks for corporations, organizations, schools, and conferences.  There is a large menu of topics to choose from, or a new talk can be developed for your unique event or group.

TV/Film/Media Consulting Services

The staff of GayTherapyLA.com are available to consult with producers and writers of TV/film and other media projects, on topics such as gay men, gay male relationships, coming out, HIV issues, bullying, child development, family issues, advocacy/activism, psychiatric disorders, character development, and others. 


What Makes Me Different from Other Therapists:

  • Specialist (almost exclusively) working with gay men and gay male couples for over 20 years
  • Licensed in California as a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW), #LCS18290 (since 1997)
  • Certified as a Psychiatric Social Worker, able to refer and connect you to MD psychiatrists (if needed) and coordinate your treatment
  • Complete privacy (with some extreme legal situations, such as suicidality, which we can discuss — unlike the “HMO network insurance therapists”, who must report your diagnosis and clinical progress to an insurance company “care manager”)
  • Graduate of major academic institutions, UCLA and USC (not a "trade school")
  • Expert in HIV mental health, as a professional and as a person successfully living with HIV for 24 years
  • Former Chair, LA County HIV Mental Health Task Force (9 years) and former Clinical Director of two local HIV non-profit service organizations
  • Currently on the faculty of the graduate USC School of Social Work (teaching advanced courses in Clinical Practice)

Fee Information:

  • Session fees are determined based on a sliding scale (according to your annual income and other personal circumstances)
  • Cash, check, credit card, or PayPal accepted at time of session
  • Insurance information is here
  • Lower-fee group treatment available
  • Available Monday through Friday, day and evening (with clinical associate staff available on Saturdays and Sundays)
  • Available for therapy/coaching in West Hollywood in person or via phone/Skype, and outside California (coaching only) via phone or Skype
  • Extra support available between sessions through emails, texting, or voicemails
  • For more information or to schedule an appointment, call 310-726-HELP (4357) or email Ken@GayTherapyLA.com

Please call (310) 726-4357 to schedule your free, 15-minute phone consultation. Let me know the best times to call you back, so we can see if we will be a good match.  If there are privacy concerns to consider when I call back and you don’t want to be overheard by others, please let me know how best to deal with them.  You can also email me at Ken@GayTherapyLA.com.

I look forward to hearing from you.

Ken Howard, MSW, LCSW
Licensed Clinical Social Worker (#LCS18290)

566 S. San Vicente Boulevard, Suite 103 (at Lindenhurst)

Los Angeles, CA 90048

(very close to West Hollywood and Beverly Hills)

Voicemail: 310-726-4357

Email: Ken@GayTherapyLA.com




I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW, #LCS18290)  and have been in practice in West Hollywood and Los Angeles for over 20 years.  I have my “dream job” of helping gay men close the gap between how life is, and how you would like it to be.  I love helping others grow, personally and interpersonally, to reach their full potential.  To read more about my own personal story, professional background, unique qualifications, motivations and philosophies that inform, inspire, and energize my work, see the Biography page.


A number of former clients (with names altered to protect their confidentiality) and colleagues have been kind enough to provide their comments on me and my work.


webMy self-help book, “Self-Empowerment: Have the Life You Want!”, is based on my first 18 years as a psychotherapist.  I call it “the portable therapist”; it helps you close the gap between how life is, and how you would like it to be, in important areas such as health, career, finances, relationships/sex, mental health, community, and spirituality.  The e-book version (only $4.99) is also now available for Amazon Kindle, Barnes and Noble Nook, and iBook for iPad and iPhone at iTunes!  It’s also available in hardcover and paperback: “Self-Empowerment: Have the Life You Want!”

Click here to visit the publisher's site at Lulu.com to get your hardcover or paperback edition (only $12), or here to visit the listing on Amazon.com.

E- Newsletter

To get your free report, “20 Tips for Gay Men to Improve Your Life – Right Now!” and to sign up for my monthly gay men’s e-newsletter, see the box on the upper-right corner of this website home page.  Each month, I’ll deliver right to your email box tips on how to solve the problems you might face in your career, relationships, finances, family, social life and more. It includes practical advice regarding the issues I see in my work with clients every day in my practice.   (Privacy is important to all of us; I will not sell, rent, or give your name or email address to anyone).


I record an audio podcast for a general audience, with more tips to have the life you want.  It’s also available as a smartphone app, and includes all episodes at your fingertips, at your convenience.  See this link:  http://itunes.apple.com/cy/app/have-the-life-you-want/id388648727?mt=8


A blog on my musings on current events and gay men’s culture is available, as well as an extensive archives on a wide range of topics from my blog history and magazine articles over the years.  Search on the terms you’re interested in, and there’s likely an article about it.

Video Blog

My video blog and YouTube channel, “ShrinkTube”, are available here.

Facebook Fan Page

To follow me on Facebook, click on this link here and become a fan! http://www.facebook.com/home.php?#!/pages/West-Hollywood-CA/Ken-Howard-LCSW-Counseling-Psychotherapy-Coaching-for-Gay-Men/97685311199?ref=ts&__a=16&ajaxpipe=1

Gay Community Donations

I believe in supporting the gay community with my clinical work, education support, and walking-the-talk via community activism and advocacy.

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